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Contradictions of Parenting

Parenting is a funny old business. I find myself saying one thing one day then totally contradicting myself the next!

One minute I think I have given birth to an angel the next it seems like I am raising a monster!

How can my baby girl have such cute smiles and sweet baby talk then scream the house down two minutes later? How can my adorable boy be snuggled up beside me one minute then have entirely trashed the house the next?

Do you laugh or cry or shout?

When you walk into the kitchen to find your kid making snow angels in the middle of the box of Rice Krispies he has poured over the floor do you laugh or cry or shout? While it is a funny sight I have stop myself from laughing because the second he thinks this is a joke I am doomed to daily Rice Krispie snow angels, a little bit of me wants to cry because I have just vacuumed the floor for the 40th time that day and a bit of me wants to shout but what is thar really going to achieve other than upsetting everyone and waking up the baby. So I choose option number 4- take a photo to show my husband the fun he is missing while at work, sigh then go get the dustpan and brush!

I want to spend every minute hanging out with my kids yet sometimes I am ready to run away!

I have to admit I just love being home with my kids everyday and the thought of my maternity leave ending fills me with dread! Some days, however, when I have 2 mini people shouting at me in unison if I have the audacity to think I can get a break by going to the toilet in peace for 30 seconds I think wistfully about the old days when a holiday involved air travel and wasn’t just the odd solo trip to the shop for milk!

I never have a minute to myself yet parenting can sometimes feel very lonely.

As I have just said I can rarely even manage a trip to the toilet on my own without a toddler, a baby and a dog all making their presence known yet some days being a mum can feel kind of lonely. A trip out normally resembles some kind of military operation so catch ups with friends have to be well organised in advance, then when I finally make it out conversation is limited to two sentences before I have to run off to sort some children related disaster. By the way if any of my friends are reading this even though it may look like I’m not listening to your story while I’m simultaneously trying to wipe puke off one baby and stopping the other child from climbing out the window I promise I hear every word!

I am delighted by each milestone my kids reach yet don’t want them to grow up!

It is so exciting watching our babies grow and learn new things everyday but at the same time I’m also a little bit sad that each new stage means they are getting older! Time flies after bringing a tiny, helpless baby home from hospital and before you know it they are running around creating mayhem everywhere!

All in all parenting can be an emotional rollercoaster which isn’t helped by lack of sleep and in the case of the mums dodgy hormones caused by growing and then extracting little people from their body! However even though these little people can the main cause of a lot of our stresses they are also the main cure for stress with a big cuddle fixing most problems!


22 thoughts on “Contradictions of Parenting”

  1. This is the joy of parenting one minute they are the cutest little things the next they are having full on tantrums. But the best part is at night when they are asleep watching their little faces is what it is all about they are sweet and innocent and tomorrow is another day

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  2. Oh my gosh, I could have written every single word of this! My boys are 4 and 6 now, so it isn’t quite so crazy in some ways, but it is in others. Now they are in school and Cub Scouts and we have so many things going on with their activities that we don’t have much time to relax lately. I don’t know how some families do it with so many activities. We just have two schools (one in preschool, one in elementary) and Cub Scouts to keep up with and that’s enough!

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  3. These are all incredibly true and I have felt very similarly. I love my kids and I always want to be around them, but mommy needs some breaks sometimes. They can try your patience in ways you never knew possible, but love deeper than you ever imagined.

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  4. You never stop being a parent even if your kids are grown. Mine are all young adults and my level of worry is still the same when they were little. My only hope is that I have been a good example for them to emulate when it is their turn to raise their own tiny humans.

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  5. I raised three kiddos and homeschooled them from pre-k-high school graduation. I can relate to all of this! Of course, they’ve moved out and are starting their own families.

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  6. So True!!! I have 2 young boys at home and it is always hectic. I found your comment about escaping to the bathroom for 30 seconds of peace funny. I don’t even get that because my boys are beating on the door trying to ask me 100 things in that 30 seconds, LOL.

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  7. Raising children is definitely a rollercoaster and I have been through sudocrem painted windows and now angels on the floor – give me babies and toddlers over teens though – that’s when the trouble really starts LOL

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  8. There are so many layers to parenting… and the thing is yes, there are books and there are stories you hear of but until you have your child, learn his/her personality and your own unique situation, you are learning as you go. You discover how You feel and so much more along the way. It is the most fulfilling and rewarding blessing, with all that said.

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  9. Yes totally get this, especially over the summer holidays – too many toys all over the place all the time (I’m planning a big clear out when they go back to school) and I love to spend as much time with them as possible but other times I don’t want to be touched and just need alone time – so many contradictions all the time

    Laura x

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  10. Love your honesty! It is so true that we can be surrounded and still feel so alone. We try to treasure these moments and yet still want a break. Thanks for sharing!


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